The Magic of Forgiveness

The magic of forgiveness is a big part of what fuels my passion for forgiveness work. Once a person has experienced the magic, everything gets easier for them: life, letting go, acceptance, forgiveness, everything. But magic and miracles are elusive, not easy to put into words. I was delighted when I recently I came across this eloquent passage on how forgiveness magic works, written by Eckhart Tolle:

Through forgiveness … the miracle of transformation happens not only within but also without. A silent space of intense presence arises both in you and around you. Whoever or whatever enters that field of consciousness will be affected by it, sometimes visibly and immediately, sometimes at deeper levels with visible changes appearing at a later time. You dissolve discord, heal pain, dispel unconsciousness – without doing anything – simply by being and holding that frequency of intense presence…
It seems that most people need to experience a great deal of suffering before they will relinquish resistance and accept – before they will forgive.  As soon as they do, one of the greatest miracles happens: the awakening of being-consciousness through what appears as evil…what we perceive as evil from our limited perspective  is actually part of the higher good  that has no opposite. This, however, does not become true for you except through forgiveness. Until that happens, evil has not been redeemed and therefore remains evil.
The Power of Now


This description, shared with me by Mary Hayes Grieco, resonates completely with my experience. As soon as I release my death grip on “being right,” as soon as I open up, even a little, to seeing the situation differently, everything begins to shift. Unexpected things occur and the result is often much better than that anticipated. 

It really is up to us. How much suffering do we need to feel?  How long do we need to struggle before we are willing to let go?

About Eileen Barker

EILEEN BARKER has been writing and speaking on forgiveness, and guiding people who need to either forgive themselves or someone else, for many years. A practicing litigation lawyer who rejected the traditional adversarial role, Eileen has focused her practice on mediation, helping thousands of people resolve disputes outside of court. This work led her into a deep exploration of forgiveness as it relates to resolving conflict and making peace, both with others and oneself.

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