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A month or so ago I was feeling particularly miserable. I had been working hard on several projects, with little to show for it. My mind supplied all kinds of reasons that added insult to injury: I am a failure. Not good enough. Not worthy. Unlovable. Uggh. I desperately needed to find the exit from my own negative thinking. But how? How do you shift gears when you are stuck inside your own personal hell?
It became very clear to me that each of us is capable of creating our own personal hell, but we can also create own personal heaven. It requires to awaken from the trance of our negative patterns, to stop identifying with our false self and start identifying with our true self: 1. Realize that you have slipped back into an old 2. Remember these old patterns, no matter how familiar and 3. Reconnect with love, your true essence, as quickly as |
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Remember your negative feelings do not define you. | |
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Stop listening to the negative messages. | |
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Spend time in nature. | |
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Take slow deep breaths when you feel wobbly. | |
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Consciously connect to a higher power. | |
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Ask higher power for help, and make space to receive it. | |
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Embrace the parts of yourself that are suffering with compassion. | |
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Forgive yourself, recognizing you have done the best you can. | |
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Remember where there is pain, there is an opportunity to heal and have more love in your life. | |
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Visualize having the life experience you desire and feel your gratitude. | |
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Change the scenery. Do something fun and nurturing. If your mind tells you can’t, or that you don’t have the time or money, find a creative way to do it anyway. | |
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Watch how quickly your mood shifts. As you feel yourself once again “in the flow,” continue practicing gratitude! | |
Until we awaken from our habitual patterns, our life experiences are defined by our mind and ego. Our thoughts, beliefs and stories, which are often quite negative, give us a limited version of who we are, and this becomes our identity. This limited self is the part that suffers, rages, resents, hurts, blames and needs to be right. But the limited self is not who we really are. Who we really are, our true essence, is connected to the infinite and universal lifeforce.
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EILEEN BARKER is an internationally recognized mediator, facilitator, forgiveness teacher and pioneer in the movement to integrate emotional healing and forgiveness in conflict resolution. In addition to her popular workshops and retreats, Eileen offers private forgiveness coaching. She is the author of the Forgiveness Workbook.
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